Well, June has turned out to be a banner month.  On the 11th, Mr. T and I celebrated our 2nd Anniversary!  Last year we retreated to a fancy hunting lodge for the weekend, baby in belly.  This year we went out to eat; baby with Grandma and Grandpa T.  We like to live on the edge.  Try not to be jealous.

Tidytot is 7 months old and doing great!  She has 6 teeth and more on the way.  She can sit up, army crawl everywhere and is laughing to our heart's content.  What a fun kid!  Now for the onslaught of pictures:

Sweet girl
Oh no you  DI' N'T!
By the garden
Funny face!!!
I just love that last one.

Have a lovely weekend!


This 'N That

I was looking at this super "fashion-y" blog the other day and saw this:

Beach Outfit styled by Jen Pinkston | photos by Mary Costa for Camille Styles

It might be hard to see, but this girl has my exact wedding ring!  I feel so "fashion-y" and now believe my suspicions to be true...I have really good taste!  Of course, I don't have this cutsie denim dress, blue fingernails or aviator glasses.  However, I can assure you this ring also looks stunning with a comfortable t-shirt and some well-worn sweatpants.

In other news, I read this book a couple weeks ago:

Sparkly Green Earrings: Catching the Light at Every Turn

It's all about motherhood and very funny.  I'd recommend it if you're in the mood for a light, uplifting read.  

I'm currently reading this book:

Also a good read.  I've learned a lot about French culture and picked up a few ideas for introducing Tidytot to new foods.

Finally, Mr. T and I have fallen in love with this yummy treat.

English muffin, Nutella, strawberries (or bananas, or both)

Make it today!!!


Important to Share

Drowning Doesn’t Look Like Drowning

In many child drownings, adults are nearby but have no idea the victim is dying. Here’s what to look for.

A lifeguard keeps watch on opening day of the newly renovated McCarren Park Pool on June 28, 2012, in Brooklyn, New York.
A lifeguard keeps watch on opening day of the newly renovated McCarren Park Pool on June 28, 2012, in  Brooklyn, New York.
Photo by Mario Tama/Getty Images
The new captain jumped from the deck, fully dressed, and sprinted through the water. A former lifeguard, he kept his eyes on his victim as he headed straight for the couple swimming between their anchored sportfisher and the beach. “I think he thinks you’re drowning,” the husband said to his wife. They had been splashing each other and she had screamed but now they were just standing, neck-deep on the sand bar. “We’re fine; what is he doing?” she asked, a little annoyed. “We’re fine!” the husband yelled, waving him off, but his captain kept swimming hard. ”Move!” he barked as he sprinted between the stunned owners. Directly behind them, not 10 feet away, their 9-year-old daughter was drowning. Safely above the surface in the arms of the captain, she burst into tears, “Daddy!”
How did this captain know—from 50 feet away—what the father couldn’t recognize from just 10? Drowning is not the violent, splashing call for help that most people expect. The captain was trained to recognize drowning by experts and years of experience. The father, on the other hand, had learned what drowning looks like by watching television. If you spend time on or near the water (hint: that’s all of us) then you should make sure that you and your crew know what to look for whenever people enter the water. Until she cried a tearful, “Daddy,” she hadn’t made a sound. As a former Coast Guard rescue swimmer, I wasn’t surprised at all by this story. Drowning is almost always a deceptively quiet event. The waving, splashing, and yelling that dramatic conditioning (television) prepares us to look for is rarely seen in real life.
The Instinctive Drowning Response—so named by Francesco A. Pia, Ph.D., is what people do to avoid actual or perceived suffocation in the water. And it does not look like most people expect. There is very little splashing, no waving, and no yelling or calls for help of any kind. To get an idea of just how quiet and undramatic from the surface drowning can be, consider this: It is the No. 2 cause of accidental death in children, ages 15 and under (just behind vehicle accidents)—of the approximately 750 children who will drown next year, about 375 of them will do so within 25 yards of a parent or other adult. In some of those drownings, the adult will actually watch the child do it, having no idea it is happening.* Drowning does not look like drowning—Dr. Pia, in an article in the Coast Guard’s On Scene magazine, described the Instinctive Drowning Response like this:
  1. “Except in rare circumstances, drowning people are physiologically unable to call out for help. The respiratory system was designed for breathing. Speech is the secondary or overlaid function. Breathing must be fulfilled before speech occurs.
  2. Drowning people’s mouths alternately sink below and reappear above the surface of the water. The mouths of drowning people are not above the surface of the water long enough for them to exhale, inhale, and call out for help. When the drowning people’s mouths are above the surface, they exhale and inhale quickly as their mouths start to sink below the surface of the water.
  3. Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on the water’s surface. Pressing down on the surface of the water permits drowning people to leverage their bodies so they can lift their mouths out of the water to breathe.
  4. Throughout the Instinctive Drowning Response, drowning people cannot voluntarily control their arm movements. Physiologically, drowning people who are struggling on the surface of the water cannot stop drowning and perform voluntary movements such as waving for help, moving toward a rescuer, or reaching out for a piece of rescue equipment.
  5. From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with no evidence of a supporting kick. Unless rescued by a trained lifeguard, these drowning people can only struggle on the surface of the water from 20 to 60 seconds before submersion occurs.”
This doesn’t mean that a person that is yelling for help and thrashing isn’t in real trouble—they are experiencing aquatic distress. Not always present before the Instinctive Drowning Response, aquatic distress doesn’t last long—but unlike true drowning, these victims can still assist in their own rescue. They can grab lifelines, throw rings, etc.
Look for these other signs of drowning when persons are in the water:
  • Head low in the water, mouth at water level
  • Head tilted back with mouth open
  • Eyes glassy and empty, unable to focus
  • Eyes closed
  • Hair over forehead or eyes
  • Not using legs—vertical
  • Hyperventilating or gasping
  • Trying to swim in a particular direction but not making headway
  • Trying to roll over on the back
  • Appear to be climbing an invisible ladder
So if a crew member falls overboard and everything looks OK—don’t be too sure. Sometimes the most common indication that someone is drowning is that they don’t look like they’re drowning. They may just look like they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, “Are you all right?” If they can answer at all—they probably are. If they return a blank stare, you may have less than 30 seconds to get to them. And parents—children playing in the water make noise. When they get quiet, you get to them and find out why.


It Ain't All Wine & Roses, People

Marriage is great.  Much better than either of us thought it would be, truth be told.  However, Mr. T and I do have the occasional hiccup.

Take yesterday, for example.

Something happened at the dinner table.  I can't tell you what, but I can tell you that I did not respond appropriately.

I looked at Mr. T, clinched my fists, tensed my entire body and loudly proclaimed, "SOMETIMES YOU MAKE ME SO ANGRY!!!"

Perhaps it was sort of out of the blue or perhaps Mr. T just isn't used to me expressing my feelings with such clarity, both of which would explain the way his eyes just went "blink, blink" and his lip turned up in a slight half smile.  

He wasn't sure what to think.

Heck, I kind of surprised myself.  

And yet, I wasn't ready to just laugh it off.  I needed to distance myself a little bit.

So to cope, I calmly turned my body to face away from him, bringing my plate along with me, and carried on our conversation - both of us speaking in normal voices as if nothing happened.  And from the sound of it, you wouldn't be able to tell that I'd ever gotten angry.  But by the look of it, you may wonder, for you would see one of us was eating at the table normally and one of us was facing the wall in a slight huff.

Every marriage has moments of squabbles and squawks.  Fortunately, there is also grace.  Lots and lots of grace.